I’m sure we’ve all heard of the phrase, “Birds of a feather flock together.” As I have been maturing and getting older, I have come to really understand what that phrase means. I’ve started realizing how important it is for me, as a young person to align myself with people who have the same ideals and drive as me.
From experience, I know that constantly spending your time with people who aren’t as ambitious as I am can steer you off the path to your goals. If you’re anything like me and you internalize people’s emotions then you can definitely be detoured from your goals. At first I felt like just because I am spending a lot of time with people who don’t have interest in the same hobbies as me, doesn’t mean that I, myself, don’t have a passion for it or that I’m not going to remain steadfast in accomplishing my goals. But when I had a moment to myself to really assess my actions and my progress based off of those actions, I realized that I can be friends with people, love and care for them; but still have to keep them at a distance.
You’ll think it’s no big deal because hey, you’re still doing what NEEDS to be done, the bare minimum probably, but when I sat and thought about how much I could’ve got done towards my goals, if I spent the same amount of time working towards them, that I do with friends I could have been much further.
At first you may find yourself trying to blame the lack of progress on your friends, obviously not directly to their faces, but in your head you may initially find yourself throwing a pity party and placing the blame on others. But at the end of the day, you are the only one with total power over your life to make the necessary adjustments.
With all that being said, I haven’t been too hard on myself about it because I’ve accepted that life is all about trial and error. I’m trying to get myself on a consistent schedule so that I can still have a little social life while working towards my goals, but I hate schedules lol. Nonetheless, the first step for improving any aspect of myself is accepting that something needs to be fixed, so I know that I’m making some progress.
Will keep you all posted.